#and spread around lots and lots of ableism

[majaurukalo]

Disabled people who shit talk their disability (and other disabilities) and think less of themselves if they don’t overcome their disability and are so full of self-hate and even go to social media or television to spread that kind of thought always raise in me some mix feelings.

The first reaction is anger. I’m angry at them for spreading such an abysmal view on disability and other disabled people and basically downgrading all the amazing work real disabled activists do everyday to make us see as humans and for having such horrible thoughts of a community they belong to.

They also trigger a very sensitive spot inside of me and I think they shouldn’t be given a platform to talk in such a way.

But then I try to calm down and rationalise and remind myself that I was in their shoes once.

That is basically internalised ableism which I, as many other disabled people, suffered from for a very long time.

Throughout my childhood and teenage years I would shiver at the idea of ending up in a wheelchair, I prayed that I would be healed and “fixed”, I would cry myself to sleep just to be normal. I hated myself.

I didn’t know any better. My parents didn’t teach me a better view because they didn’t know any better either.

You know what helped me accept and love myself? The disabled community.

All the amazing disabled creators, who talk about this topic in a healthy, empowering way.

So what I think is… disabled people who still suffer from internalised ableism are not our enemies. They are just people who haven’t found this community, who are still processing this difficult reality (and maybe they are newly disabled so that’s even more understandable). They are traumatised, they are suffering from the toxic views the able-bodied society puts on us. They probably don’t have a healthy support system, maybe just family and friends who are pushing them to get fixed, who are telling them to not give up to that kind of life. They think they are unlovable.

So let’s not shit on them. Let’s not insult them because that’s not how they will feel welcome into the community.

Instead, let’s encourage them to change view. Give them positive and empowering disability resources and examples.

[covid-safer-hotties]

Also preserved in our archive

I have no clue how this guy hasn't divorced his wife. If my partner looked at me with disgust about anything that wasn't literally disgusting, I'd be googling "divorce lawyer."

by Sam Williams

A week ago, my wife and I went to John Lewis to look at air fryers. As we entered the store, I put on an FFP3 mask because of Covid. My wife looked at me in disgust and said, “Oh, you’re wearing a mask?” I replied, “Yes. There’s a lot of Covid around, and I don’t want it. Do you?”

She responded, “Well, the trouble is, I’m not wearing a mask”.

I said, “Yes, I can see that. I wish you would. The trouble is, every time I’ve caught Covid, it’s been from you. I’m disabled with long COVID, and every time I get reinfected, it makes me really, really ill”.

So here’s my question: does my wife not care?

I want to use this piece to spark a debate about who we are as people. Are we kind and virtuous, or are we selfish and indifferent? Writing an article about what stops people from wearing masks, while I live with the pain caused by my wife not masking, feels like an oddly meta activity.

That’s right, folks: it was probably my wife who gave me Covid in the first place. Although, to be fair, neither of us knew about masking or long Covid back then.

The case for masks amid rising Covid I need people to wear masks or ensure clean air so it’s safe for me to go out—especially in healthcare settings. Yet, most people refuse. I asked my wife why she doesn’t wear a mask, and she said, “There’s no point, because nobody else does.”

I understand the futility in her statement. Many people don’t wear masks simply because they don’t care or because they think Covid is over.

If my wife were a cruel or unkind person, it would be easier to accept her refusal to wear a mask. But in my experience, even many kind people—even those on the political Left—can be cruel when it comes to disabled individuals.

Although my wife has struggled with my disability, she is generally a kind person. In my autistic brain, it seems perfectly logical that she should wear a mask to protect me from airborne viruses. Yet, logic loses when it comes to personal choices and disability.

Misconceptions about Covid and masks People think Covid is “just a cold.” Some even believe masks themselves make you ill. I think people don’t mask because of ableism and because they’ve been conditioned to associate masks with the pandemic itself.

It’s the same conditioning that leads them to blame lockdowns and vaccines for Covid, rather than recognising these measures were designed to mitigate its spread.

When people see me in a mask, they’re reminded of the acute phase of the pandemic. My presence confronts them with an uncomfortable truth: their refusal to mask contributes to the deaths and disabling of others. It reveals they may not be as caring as they like to think.

I wish more people would remember the Covid dead and choose to wear a mask to prevent further loss of life.

Why people don’t mask The biggest reason, I believe, is a failure of public health communication over wearing a mask. The government declared Covid “over,” and most people still trust what they’re told. Many would resume masking if asked, but the government is too afraid of the right-wing media and too indifferent to disability to make that request.

Then there’s the pervasive idea of “health supremacy”:

The belief that only people with pre-existing conditions get long Covid.

The notion that a “healthy” immune system can fight off the virus.

The argument that we don’t need vaccines or other preventative measures.

Some even suggest that “living your best life” and going out for brunch are more important than protecting loved ones. The low mortality rate of Covid is used as justification, with a dismissive attitude towards the elderly and those with long Covid.

Many fail to consider the quality of life endured by those with long Covid or the rising number of children affected. Parents, it seems, don’t care enough about their kids, or they’re unaware that long COVID in children has doubled in the past year.

There’s also peer pressure and groupthink. No one wants to stand out by wearing a mask. “If it were really unsafe, wouldn’t everyone else wear one? Wouldn’t the authorities tell us to mask up?”

When I do convince others to wear masks, it’s usually a flimsy surgical one—barely adequate protection.

The personal cost of not wearing a Covid mask If we continue as we are, everyone will eventually develop long Covid. Those who still mask are only delaying the inevitable because we’re so outnumbered.

I know people who’ve lost friendships and family connections over masking. Others restrict their contact with loved ones to stay safe. Some have even been lied to by family members about masking.

And all because people must have brunch.

It feels grossly unfair to be forced to choose between family and health. For me, it’s not just about Covid. With a weakened immune system, other airborne viruses are just as harmful. Every cold or similar illness sets me back by months.

The fatalist in me whispers: stop masking. If no one else is wearing a mask, why fight it – just let long Covid take me. Every reinfection only worsens my condition.

A systemic failure The government—New Labour or otherwise—has shown little interest in preventing the spread of Covid or developing treatments for long Covid. The societal denial of this reality is overwhelming.

Until we build a society and government centred on community and care instead of selfish individualism, we’re doomed. Is thinking of others really too much to ask?

If only long Covid weren’t an invisible disability. If it caused something visible—like the loss of a limb—perhaps people would be forced to act.

The point of wearing a mask: not just for Covid Here’s why masking matters:

It reduces your viral load if you get infected.

It sets a good example for others.

It shows courage and strength.

It protects vulnerable people, including the disabled, chronically ill, and immunosuppressed.

It proves you have empathy and intelligence.

[discomxcabre]

my first and last

viktor x gn!reader

okay so i saw this post and got some inspiration. this is titled after an nct dream song btw (i miss my kpop phase). just so you guys know, english is not my first language so grammar in this is shit.

[first kiss, oblivious vik, internalised ableism, slight angst, use of the c-word, reader wears a tie]

There were a lot of things Viktor considered himself: a genius, a loner, a cripple... But none of this things were "desirable", "beautiful" (at least since his body started to wither,) or "kissable".

He remembered meeting you - his new lab partner, a third brilliant mind to amplify his and Jayce's research. You, a mix of scientific brightness and a soft heart. Some days, you brought pastries to the lab and somehow, they were the rarities from his childhood in Zaun, flavors that reminded him of those cozy holiday nights.

He pretended he never saw those drawings of him in the margins of your notes. And somehow, these doodles captured so much beauty in their few lines he had to force himself to believe they represented him.

It was hard for him to believe in the fact that the blanket that covered his sleeping self, hunched over the table was left by you.

In the breaks you took, you were sitting on the lab couch with a romance novel, and after finishing a chapter, you excitedly told him what happened on the pages. The longing glances, requited adorations, sleeping in the same beds, lips touching lips.

These stories felt as real for him as these about heroic fights, mages and unknown lands.

These moments were in fact, weird, to say the least. The nice, warming kind of weird. But in the back, there was coldness of knowing these were a normalcy for people not like him.

This evening, you took him out to the academy garden, under the pretext to refresh your minds. He watched the moon reflecting in the pond and in your eyes.

"The moon is beautiful today, isn't it?" You said, looking up.

"It definitely is."

"You know what else is beautiful?" You brushed his cheekbone with your finger and this touch made him shiver.

"The stars?"

"They are. But I'm talking about something else..."

Two storms fought in his brain, one telling him that the answer is 'you', the other telling the first 'no, that's ridiculous.'

"The flowers."

"No. It's you". You said, meeting his eyes. Viktor leaned on the brick wall. "Can I?" You leaned your hands on the wall, his hips between them. You couldn't hide your shaking hands. "Can I kiss you?" Your cracked voice sounded at least pathetic.

"Me?"

"Yes, you." You tried to be smug, but the stuttering didn't help you.

Viktor answered by slowly hanging his cane on your back and pulling you closer to him. But his golden eyes were confused.

"From all the people in the world, you choose the unappealingly thin cripple from the Undercity. Really?"

You leaned closer. Viktor's cold, coffee-flavoured breath touched your face.

You looked in his eyes. "From all the people I choose my Viktor. I don't want anyone else."

Your lips touched the mole on his cheekbone. Quickly, barely feeling him, then pulling away.

With eyes escaping his gaze, you giggled.

Viktor touched the mole and turned pink. His trembling hand grabbed you tie and pulled you to his lips.

He tasted like sweetmilk and cream. His chapped lips nibbled on yours, slightly scratching your skin. You felt his thin arms shivering, as they wrapped around your neck. But yours just laid on the wall, with no direction of what to do, until Viktor grabbed one of them with his. It felt so delicate, like a piece of porcelain. He guided you to his waist.

"You aren't in pain now, right?" You checked, reluctant to hold him too tight.

"You don't have to ask. I'd tell you."

"Sorry, Vik... You just seem quite fragile and I don't want to..."

Before you could end the sentence, he pulled your tie to lock his lips with your again. He spreaded his legs to let you closer. You moaned in his mouth.

For a second, you pulled away with a string of saliva connecting the two of you. "Okay, I get it."

You pulled yourself back to him, squeezing your hands around his waist. Now, you tasted the mole on his neck, and sucked on the delicate, pale skin. Viktor whimpered with one hand on the back of your head and the other gripping your shoulder. The pain made it certain that grip will leave a mark on you.

You were certain your bodies can't be closer, but when he wrapped his legs around your hips, you could hear his heartbeat and feel the brace under his clothes. Viktor parted his lips, letting a whimper out of them. His neck arched, exposing his Adam's apple and long stenomastoid. Your mouth moved to the protruding muscle and traveled through it back to his lips.

And Viktor felt like he was dreaming. You were so careful, yet so fervent with him. Your lips made him more drunk than all the liquors he tasted, making him tug at your clothes, not to let you go. His body heatened, squeezing sweat out of him. But you didn't seem to mind the smell. In fact, you seemed to dine on his mouth like on a sweet, creamy cake.

Suddenly, you stopped. He whined, tugging on your shirt, but you pulled back. As he unglued his eyelids, he saw your eyes studying his face.

"Fuck, Viktor. You're so pretty like this." You panted. Your lower lip shined from his saliva.

"Please." He gasped. "Kiss me more, you taste like heaven."

You lowered your grasp to his hips and got as close as you can, with your pelvis touching his. Your hearts were rushing in sync. Viktor made the highest noise that ever left his lips, as your tongue tied with his. A string of drool streamed down his chin.

You arched back, and Viktor arched with you, as you supported him with your hands on his back. He felt so safe, despite the possibility of you dropping him an any moment.

Suddenly, he heard Jayce's voice calling your name. You abandoned his mouth and pulled him back upright. Just now, as you leaned down to get it, he realised he had dropped his cane. You gave it to him, helped him back on the ground, then left.

But in his head, Viktor was still kissing you. He looked at his hand to check if he wasn't dreaming.

He wasn't. The spit that marked his lips and the sweet taste on his tongue was real.

He just stood there. Stood, touching his wet lips, processing the recent minutes, in which he experienced the last thing he thought he'd experience.

Until he busted into tears.

dividers by @sweetmelodygraphics

[endless-elysium]

Gentle reminder that any offering is a valuable offering

I speak from experience when I say that there are plenty of things which can prevent you from doing some "easy" offerings. That doesn't make your practice lesser in any capacity.

Judging "value" of an offering is purely subjective. You can't know everyone's unique circumstances, whether that be where they live, their disabilities, the avaliablity of materials, and many other such things. You can't really view it from an objective standpoint, something that is easy to you might be nigh impossible for someone else.

You can't put things into tight little boxes and exclude everyone who even mildly steps out of them. That is not what this religion is about. Ableism is unfortunately so prevalent, and whether intentionally or not, enforcing harsh standards for what is and isn't proper is only further amplifying it.

Take a step back and look: is this person directly disrespecting the Gods by doing this? Are they harming themselves or others by doing it? (Animals and the environment included.) No? Then move on. Scroll past it, block them if it really gets on your nerves, but don't go against Xenia just to prove yourself somehow superior.

And to those who are struggling and feeling like they aren't doing enough to honour the Gods; just know that it's okay. Whatever your circumstances are, whatever your situation may be that's making you feel that way, just know that you're trying, and that's enough.

Don't let yourself fall into a spiral of what's proper. Does it feel right? Does it make you feel good? Then it's enough.

All of us have unique situations. Don't judge someone else based on your perspective alone. Don't put anyone down for being different. We're a community, let's have each other's backs instead. You don't need to agree with everything, just don't spread hate or try to make someone feel inferior.

I know a lot of people covered this already, but I just want there to be more reassurance around.

Share your snacks with your deities, drink tea with Them, sit in silence with Them, talk about your day with Them, devote your thoughts to Them; whatever you can, whatever feels good, is equally as valuable.

[anachronistic-falsehood]

i. don’t really know what to think about the whole forever situation. because i have seen people say “he’s addressed this a long time ago so why are we bringing it up” but i haven’t seen WHERE he’s addressed it in the past. nary a tweet or clip of anywhere he may have talked about it, but i would love to see an older clip of him talking about this if possible

I’ve seen people say “his tweets and messages were translated in bad faith to give english speakers a bad perception” which. ok yeah understandable but if that’s the case i still don’t know what exactly the situation is or how serious it is

“she was 13” “she was 15” OK WHICH IS IT!!! both are bad but one is still significantly grosser than the other and i don’t know which is true!! or are there multiple girls!!! i don’t know!!!

“he met a fan for flirtatious/sexual reasons” “he met a fan for normal content creator reasons” WHICH IS IT!!!! I DON’T KNOW!!! i guess only he and the fan would know what the intent was when they met, and even then i don’t know if they met alone or if it was a normal ass fan meetup with multiple other people there

“it’s been 7-8 years, he’s changed” ok. now we are making some sense. he has not exhibited this kind of behaviour in years it seems and he appears to be the kind of person who would not say or do these things now. no one is irredeemable and no one is beyond change. still, it is important for some people to know. many fans would rather know this and make the educated choice on whether to support him or not than continue to support him in blind blissful ignorance. even though it’s stressing me out and i’m still clueless about a lot of it, i’m glad i know anyway.

“what about the past transphobia and the ableism and the and the and the-” That Is Not Relevant To This Conversation. this is a different situation. he has apologized for his past opinions and everyone has had ample time to come to terms with them and make peace with supporting him despite his past beliefs.

“he’s deleting past tweets” i mean if someone was digging around my account for things i’ve said that i no longer stand by, i would delete shit too. sure as hell doesn’t make him look innocent but i would do the same. i HAVE done the same, albeit for much more minor and trivial reasons for posts i made when i was like 15, but still

“he apologized and said he’s getting a lawyer!! no guilty person would do that!!” your content creator is not an angel. guilty people take their accusers to court all the time and get away with it. also, it is up to everyone individually to decide whether to believe him or not. you cannot push others to believe your side but you can give context to some things

there’s nuance to this like there is with everything, and people are jumping to conclusions saying either “he’s an innocent little lamb how dare you!” or “he should be deplatformed and we should never speak of him again!” i will never fault anyone for supporting the alleged victim. if your decision is to stop watching him immediately or even stop supporting the qsmp itself, no one should ever fault you for that. it is ultimately up to you to make that decision. the situation is not clear enough for me to make a decision, so i will withhold judgement for now. i will not doompost about it, and i will not call out people for defending or dropping him.

but for the love of god, just. everybody keep your cool. especially english speakers, we may not have full proper translations for the messages and tweets. take a deep breath. if you want to find more info to form an opinion now and spread information that people don’t already have, go ahead. if you want to step back and not think about it for now, go ahead. there is no shame in taking a step back and thinking about other things. you are not morally obligated to be invested in this situation. you are not morally obligated to drop him immediately and you are also not morally obligated to keep supporting him just because he’s friends with your favs. stick to your gut and do what you feel is right. you will be okay. this is not the end of the world.

[captainstarburst]

i genuinely think the wave of like. "assertiveness" people have been spreading the past few years has undone so much progress in mental health communities im not even kidding. im not talking about actual normal assertiveness like setting boundaries or saying no when you need to say no. i mean this very specific kind of behavior where.. people will talk circles around the concept of "standing up for yourself" but never learn any actual communication or boundary setting skills. and still being extremely conflict avoidant. so what they end up doing is allowing people to talk and act in ways they dont like until they eventually snap and blow up at that person without any warning. and i see this a lot from specifically lower support needs disabled people where they dont like when the "scary" mentally ill people act mentally ill and they never ask them to not talk about certain things and never say certain behaviors bother them and then they explode at you later anyways. its just more ableism really. if you actually care about standing up for yourself you will learn how to communicate and have difficult conversations in ways where you dont get so mad at the other party you cant control yourself anymore. and if you don't do that you Are perpetuating the exact same cycles you claim to be "standing up against". you have become part of the problem. we've done a terrible disservice to mentally ill people by proclaiming that any way you recover Is good. but no you very much can heal from trauma in ways that make you mean and Worse sometimes and we really do need to be recognizing that. examine your biases examine the way you act. dont just blindly seek confirmation that you arent mean. prove that you arent. prove it.

[a-little-revolution]

heya, this might be too much for a single post, but i would delight in a ramble about the overlap between dwarfism and disability (whether or not you/the community as a whole generally consider it a capital-D Disability or if theres more nuance like with the autism or HOH/Deaf communities where it just Is and folks feel the the struggles with outgroup folks are like, culture clashes, or perhaps a secret third thing?)

similarly, id love for a ramble on the overlap between dwarfism and queerness, especially The Genders. i have ehlers-danlos syndrome and theres a huge number of us who are trans or nonbinary, to the point where masculinizing hrt is (anecdotally) understood to be a bit of a treatment for some symptoms. i know theres a lot of overlap between queerness and disability as a whole, but so far the couple of artists with dwarfism ive found and followed are all some flavor of trans or nonbinary, so id love to know if thats as common of a thing in your community as it is in mine

dwarfism is for sure underrepresented in discussion about both disability and queerness, and as a disabled queer person they are so intertwined in my head, and im forever curious about other folks experiences so your thoughts are appreciated!

Hello!! I love these questions!!

Firstly, yes, I do identify as being both a little person and disabled, but that isn't the case for everyone with dwarfism. Though dwarfism falls under the classification of a physical disability, not all little people find it physically debilitating. For me, my Achondroplasia dwarfism has resulted in sleep apnea, arthritis, chronic pain, hearing loss, limited mobility and dexterity. I cannot walk long distances and I use multiple moblility aids (wheelchair for long distance, rollator most of the time, and cane for short distances or around the house). My disability is dynamic, meaning that my ability changes day to day depending on pain levels, spoons (unit of measure for disabled energy), and activity.

Being that I am both a little person AND noticeably disabled, I have experienced ableism within both the abled community and the LP community, which is something I don't often talk about. I've been in situations where I feel alienated from my own community - additionally for my queerness. When you exist at the intersection of as many things as I do, you experience many flavours of ignorance and discrimination from the very people who should accept you.

That being said, I have also had the privilege of meeting other little people who are trans, queer, and nonbinary like I am. Our community is incredibly diverse, but spread along the globe. It is easy to feel a profound isolation, but the internet has provided me with a means of connection which I greatly appreciate.

Disability and queerness is something I discuss in depth in my public speaking roles, as I deeply value intersectionality in education and activism (I hope to share some of my talks as I record them in the future!).

I am forever painful aware that ableism is alive and will within the queer community - even when "all are welcome", we are still an after thought. I really urge my fellow queers to think beyond our own community to bipoc and disabled folks, otherwise you're really just dipping your toes into radicalism. Read more books by black disabled trans women of colour, and expand your thinking. (Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk lol)

I can't really speak to hate from the other direction, as all of the disabled folks I know on a personal level are also queer. Though I will say that I certainly receive queer-phobia from older (white) disabled folks - in my experience, when white folks become disabled with age and have not faced any other injustice in their life, they can be very hateful.

This has been quite a post, so I hope I've answered your questions in full! I would be happy to discuss it more if not/answer other related questions! Thank you so much!

Elliot (they/them)

[lobo-inu]

saw a post that reminded me of my really bad past experiences with tesblr, and how lucky i am to finally have a tes server that’s like…. actually safe. and full of people who are nothing but genuine. especially now that i’ve healed a lot, too.

i’ve heard SO MANY horror stories about rumors people in this fandom spread - and i’ve also been a victim of them too, lol. been called a scammer (was getting donations for a live saving surgery. thats it), a mysoginist (literally just explaining my mother-based trauma and being scared of adult women lol), and also like. had rumors go around about me apparently letting minors into an 18+ server. even tho i fucking hate interacting with minors online w a passion. i made a past server that was previously 15+ to 18+ and kicked all minors bc they could not fucking behave and respect boundaries.

oh, also pure ableism when it comes to a Very stigmatized diagnosis of mine. :| that was from the same person who called me a mysoginist. people over here making insane headcanons for me, i guess 😭

….so yeah. just awful, out of character shit going around.

i’ve lost a good few people i considered friends who were quick to listen to these rumors instead of just. idk. communicating with me.

this fandom irks me a lot with it’s behavior on a personal level beyond that, though. Skyrim had been one of my most intense hyperfixations since i was in a single digit age. so it sucks having such a hostile and drama-hungry community when all i wanna do is share OCs and shit.

this sounds fucking insane, but past experiences here have caused my anxiety disorder to skyrocket to such a drastically dangerous degree, so its kinda crazy that i’m even back here. typing this out is giving me chest pains lol. like this is probably one of the worst fandoms to get involved with

with that said, thank you @ the people who’ve made my return an enjoyable experience. and thank you to those who stuck around even after i left in 2023, and stuck by me and my honesty vs rumors. yall are the fucking real ones. and also the babygirls server, friends both new and old - i love u guys. thank yall for helping me continue this personal healing journey of mine (yall know what i’m referencing).

if anyone has had any ridiculous experiences here, do feel free to share 😭 cause i know i’m not the only one. also god i love the babygirls server. pls join the babygirls server

[compassionatevanillaorchid]

~ Introduction ~

Hello, hello!~

Welcome to my little rp blog; @compassionatevanillaorchid (previously @awakened-purevanilla)! I made this on a whim after seeing so many other accounts and feeling the inexplicable urge to join in. This is a blog where I, @mothboyame, will respond to all of your questions, requests and interactions in character as Pure Vanilla Cookie!

Other RP Blogs:

@sillyvanillacookie

@blind-healers-blog

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~ Info ~

This blog is for fun and will be a little silly. I do also have some headcanons and other little tidbits that I'll let you all be aware of!

Be aware that I do ship mainly Shadowvanilla (but I also do like PureCacao) so please be mindful and don't be unnecessarily hateful! This blog is meant to be a safe space for others to share their thoughts and just have fun!

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(This format is when I am talking out of character.)

This format is when I am in character.

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~ My Pure Vanilla headcanons ~

✧ Pure Vanilla Cookie is transgender (FtM/AFAB). (I like projecting on my favorite characters a lot.)

✧ He is the shortest of the ancients and I like to imagine him shorter than most of the beasts as well (except for Eternal Sugar).

✧ He is blind (mostly just very blurry eyesight).

✧ He has autism and he does suffer from an ED (projecting again lol).

✧ He does also have PTSD, anxiety and an inferiority complex (from the Dark Flour War and the Spire of Deceit).

✧ Pure Vanilla Cookie doesn't have any (living) parents. He was raised by his townsfolk around where he used to live and - unsurprisingly - a flock of sheep. He has no memory of his mother who likely died when he was very little. But he does remember often seeing a ghostly being hidden among the other sheep as he grew up...

✧ He is very much bottom coded. (Yes, I do prefer Top!Shadow Milk and I don't switch, bite me.)

✧ He is a literal Disney princess.

✧ His (probably) nicknames: Vanilly, Nilly, Vani, Nilla, Waffle Cone, Vanilla Bean, Bean, Orchid, Little Bo Peep

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~ Rules ~

The rules are generally very simple and quite the usual.

1. Be respectful to myself and others

2. Don't spread hate or use hateful terms/slurs (this includes, but is not limited to: Homophobia, Transphobia, Ableism and Racism)

3. Do not interact if you have issues with the character or with Shadowvanilla

4. Do not spam

5. Do not push me to reply, I will respond when I can but I do have other things to do in my life, please respect that

6. I am above the age of 18 (I am 20), so slightly suggestive content is okay

7. Don't take anything seriously, this is all fun and sillies here!

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~ Contents ~

Act I.

Act II.

[Other Events/RPs]

A Ghostly Event

[OOC/Asks Content!]

The Mailbox (OOC)

Bluebird Letters! (In Character Asks)

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That's all there is for now! Feel free to submit into the inbox and have fun! ❤️

[statisticalcats2]

Hey guys, please don't forget about disabled people in America. Please don't forget that we're a specific target of Trumpist America. He goes after people of color and queer people (especially trans people) and he goes after disabled people too and I feel like it's not talked about as much.

We've already had a situation where he was quoted going after disabled people but the game of telephone around it has a lot of people thinking it was about people of color. It wasn't (though he has plenty of those too), it was about disabled people.

Please don't push disabled people out of the conversation. Please don't talk over us. Please don't ignore ableism. Please don't lie or spread misinformation to erase our experiences and the discrimination we face. Please don't erase us.

[covid-safer-hotties]

Also preserved in our archive

As we’re facing the next COVID surge (brought on by holiday travel), I thought I might try a different kind of COVID post. You can skip to here for some easy to do tips and tricks you might have missed, or you can read down for my discussion of why this is important.

I have recently been writing and thinking a lot about why so many of my friends and family’s actions on COVID are so different from mine. Namely why so many people I know no longer seem very interested in either preventing themselves from being sick or, importantly, not spreading sickness to anyone else.

In my own case, the experience of staying home to stop the spread in 2020 forced me to strongly reconsider my behavior up to that point. Why had I ever thought it was OK to go to work or ride the subway with the flu, unmasked and taking no precautions, knowing that the flu certainly hospitalizes and kills people each year? Even if the flu was no big deal for my body, my behavior had limited other people—particularly disabled people—from comfortably being in public during flu season. I had knowingly spread around an illness. I radically reconsidered a lot of my behavior, and in particular, 2020 pushed me to focus more specifically on disability justice in my activism. A disability justice framework pushes us beyond thinking about individual access to consider how ableism limits us all from liberation.

Getting back to why this reconsideration didn’t happen on a mass level, understanding disability justice also means understanding that ableism is the current social order. And if it’s the order of the day, like other oppressive ideologies, that means we are all drenched in it and it is impossible to avoid ever doing something ableist. Furthermore, most people are going to act in ableist ways, most of the time. None of this are exempt from this, but not even trying is definitely worse!

I am also well aware that good COVID information is hard to come by, especially if you are not on the regular lookout for it. And if you do go looking for it, it can quickly get overwhelming. So I’d like to offer here a very short, distilled list of things people might have missed since 2020. (I’ve not taken the time to track down citations for all of these things; you’ll have to trust me that I got them from trustworthy sources or you can verify on your own. I’m happy to give more info on any of these too.)

Some of these things are easy enough to do. I’m offering this list because from a “stop the spread” mindset, each specific thing you do is helpful. This list is not meant to be comprehensive, and it’s hopefully not overwhelming. You don’t have to be perfect or avoid COVID 100% of the time or make this part of your identity, but I’d like to ask everyone reading this to take one step up in your mitigations for the holiday season, since this is reliably a time with huge increases in virus transmission. With around a thousand people still dying every week from COVID in the US, you don’t know whose life you may save by being a little more careful.

Masking This is the biggest bang for your buck, precaution-wise. If it’s hard for you to mask all the time in public, consider masking in places that disabled people really can’t avoid, like the pharmacy, the grocery store, and on public transportation.

I’d also suggest that if masks are uncomfortable, try different kinds of masks! The Aura is my favorite mask – it’s tight to my face so my glasses don’t fog and head straps don’t hurt my ears like ear straps do. Wellbefore sells masks in different sizes and colors, and Armbrust has sampler packs. Just try a bunch and see what works for you!

Finally, know that if at all possible, you should wear an N95 or KN95 mask. This is a change since spring 2020 because the current variants of COVID are more contagious.

Mouthwash Washing your mouth out with a mouthwash containing CPC (cetylpyridinium chloride) before or after seeing people, or just regularly, will kill some of the virus in your mouth and keep you below the threshold to get sick and/or shed the virus to others. This is a really easy one; CVS brand mouthwash has CPC.

Sip mask These valves will allow you to drink without breaking the seal of your mask. This is great for airplane travel, crowded conferences, or other risky spaces that you need to be in for an extended amount of time.

Airplane The most dangerous time on an airplane from a virus transmission standpoint is the time sitting on the runway (because of the way they circulate and filter the air onboard). Even if you don’t mask up during the flight, this is the best time to mask. (And if you do mask, this is the worst time to have a snack or drink – try to keep your mask on for all of this period.)

Space out risky or crowded events Don’t go to a wedding and a concert in the same weekend! Illness takes 3-5 days to develop after exposure, so give yourself time to know if you got sick from the last thing before potentially spreading that to the next thing.

Air purifiers work! This is a great one for places that you can’t avoid, like school, work, or daycare. You can make your own Corsi-Rosenthal box, but there’s also a variety of high quality air purifiers you can get for $70-100. You want to make sure it has a HEPA or Merv13+ filter on it, and check how quickly it changes out the air in a room. Since COVID is airborne, there can be COVID in a space even after the person has left it. Setting up air purifiers and/or opening windows until enough air has circulated before you remove your mask is a great way to make a space COVID safer

Test before going to events, even if you don’t feel sick Rapid tests (the kind you’re used to getting from the government and at the drug store) False negatives from these are rampant but a positive test reliably means you have COVID. The accuracy of these tests also increases a LOT if you take two of them 48 hours apart.

Better home tests are now available Metrix and Pluslife are both testers you can buy that offer a similar level of accuracy to a PCR test (that is, very accurate!). These devices are expensive, but so is another COVID infection: think of the missed work, cost of Paxlovid, and potential for Long COVID to keep you down even longer.

It’s a good idea to get an updated vaccine 2x a year too; like the flu shot, these vaccines are updated to try to fend off the particular variants that are circling. Be mindful though that vaccination will not necessarily stop transmission, especially of asymptomatic cases. Handwashing is also good for general prevention, but it doesn’t really stop COVID transmission. In the early days of COVID, researchers guessed that it was spread by physical droplets. That’s why we were instructed to wash our hands and groceries. But now we know that COVID is airborne; it spreads more like cigarette smoke than spit!

Of course, no single thing works perfectly. The best model is still the Swiss cheese model, but that also means each thing you do helps. If you’re reading this, please consider doing *one more thing* to take care of yourselves and others. I love you

[ckret2]

I was going to just reply to this post, https://www.tumblr.com/ckret2/760386247709622272/chapter-updated-and-crossposted-to-ao3-this-one, but then my message got so long and I got kind of heated about what I was saying so I decided to just make it an ask. I’m talking about what you were mentioning in the post, about how people apparently didn’t understand Bill doesn’t just not understand human hygiene.

I understood it the first time. I thought it was very obvious, actually. I don’t know why other people apparently didn’t. I can’t see how it could possibly give anyone the impression that he doesn’t get hygiene when he literally uses the fact that he gets hygiene against his captors so clearly because how else would he be able to even know that he could rub the grossness in their face? To make himself feel better about how he’s a prisoner and also kind of has no choice?

Unless they genuinely forgot because of… I think it might be a kind of be a result of societal ableism— a problem with ableism and how it’s influenced trends in fandom. I’ve been in a lot of fandoms where I noticed that people do this a lot with any characters with a certain kind of neurodivergent air— characters I often related to— who act how they want and generally don’t care about social standards or being “normal.”

An annoying portion of the fandom just starts treating them like they don’t know any better instead of knowing and not caring, and start talking about them like they’re dumb in a way that kinda reminds me of how I’ve been treated as an autistic person, whenever I thought any social rule or norm was pointless. Like people would just keep explaining to me that it existed no matter how often I clearly expressed that I knew it existed, I just didn’t see a reason to care. Other kids who acted neurodivergent got this too, no matter how obvious they made it that they just didn’t care.

I mostly got this as a girl who didn’t act “girly”— or ashamed of myself— for being not feminine enough or tomboyish enough. Teachers and parents and even a lot of classmates who just kept trying to “correct me when they realized I basically wasn’t “properly” ashamed. They talked around it, but autistic people are not dumb, and their underlying logic was almost always just that. With adults they genuinely seemed to think they were helping me, and just refused to get it, but classmates would get more patronizing after a while. Idk but- anyway…

I’ve started to identify and dread when people might do this to any character I related to in a certain way who chose not to care about social norms. And there was definitely something awfully familiar about the way people seemed to begin to think about them after a while. Especially if there hadn’t been any new episodes with that character or something for a while, they’d just start to remember them as stupider as their minds fell into certain patterns.

And people who do this to the characters, start talking about them like they’re canonically dumb and start almost infantilizing them in fanworks. I remember this one character I really related to, where people started writing fanfics and shipping them with this other character who was kind of a bully in canon, “teaching” them how to act more normal and treating them like a child, and this awful dynamic became The Most Popular Ship for that character. It was disgusting.

And then other people start to get the idea that this is canonical, when it’s entirely fandom based canon that shouldn’t even be fancanon and only exists because of ableism in the first place. But it spreads because people see this group of the fandom talking about it and, especially newcomers, just start to assume this is normal, this is what canon looks like. That’s where the fanworks featuring this come from.

And Bill is one of these characters. I can’t put it into words but he does share that certain ADHD ish quality that I relate to as a neurodivergent person and that makes me worry people will twist him into the Stupid Boy Don’t Know Anything Normal set mold too. Anyway, I’m pretty sure this bs is the reason for any “misunderstandings” like this about Bill.

I think in this case it might have just been mostly people treating Bill like he’s dumb as they forgot after a while of reading the chapter and started thinking of him… the way they think of characters (and people) with adhd or some other form of neurodivergence who don’t fit in, automatically, w/o realizing. And they started building it worse off each other. And then newcomers came in and saw how they were talking about Bill and started unconsciously reflecting it. It wasn’t in anything to do with your writing.

And I’m sorry you had to deal with it, too. I hope you didn’t have to cut down or dumb down your story, or… not too much, because of it. You shouldn’t have to bring down your work because you’re afraid an audience won’t understand. In this case, I really think it’s more because of a fandom trend and a societal problem than you actually being bad at writing Bill in any way. You shouldn’t have to dumb down the story to make it more obvious for this. And it wasn’t your fault in any way I can think of. But yeah.

I was trying to delicately avoid flinging accusations right at my own readers, especially since there's no way to know what any one given particular reader is bringing into a story—but honestly I've assumed all along it's either ableism, racism, or fatphobia, three issues that predispose people to see the affected person/character as both "stupid" and "dirty" and all of which apply either to Bill or to his human body.

I can't cure ableism, racism, or fatphobia in a fanfic. But I can make it harder for people to default to Ignorant Dirty Gremlin Child stereotypes. And I want to make it harder, because I'd like people to understand my work on the terms I intended to present it. An author's job is to communicate their ideas in words that accurately convey those ideas to the reader, and if a lot of readers don't get it, it's first and foremost the author's duty to see if there's anything else they can do to couch their ideas in language readers will get.

Anything beyond that is out of my hands. I've now done my level best with chapter 8.

[echo-goes-mmm]

Juno in "Abandoned"

My Writing Masterpost

Juno Collection Masterpost

Warnings: slavery, implied past noncon, ableism 

Master was growing tired of him. He could tell.

Master didn’t hit him as much. Didn’t call him to sleep at the foot of his bed. Didn’t show him off to his friends on Saturday nights. Didn’t make him do tricks like before.

He couldn’t understand it.

Juno did everything right. He was good. He was obedient. He didn’t resist when Master strung him up and beat him until he couldn’t scream any more. He spread his legs on command and let it happen. He begged properly for scraps like a good boy.

By all measures, he was good.

So why didn’t Master love him anymore?

Juno threw himself into being extra good. He made Master’s favorite meals everyday. Baked him sweets upon sweets, made sure his chores were done earlier and earlier. He tried his best to be perfect.

But none of it, not a thing, got his Master’s attention. 

What was he doing wrong?

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“Juno-” Master snapped his fingers- “Come.”

Juno came, as quick and light-footed as he could. Master had finally called for him! It must be good.

In Master’s hand was the leash, and Juno was confused, but obeyed when it was clipped to his collar.

He quietly followed Master outside and onto the streets. It was a cool morning, and his socks didn’t quite help his feet stay warm from the cold cobblestone.

His confused excitement vanished when they rounded the corner and he saw where they were going.

No, please! He wanted to beg. I’ve been good!

But Master had beaten words out of him a long time ago. He couldn’t make them anymore.

Master undid his collar, and he felt the loss so keenly he nearly felt like crying.

Master exchanged money with the slaver, a pitiful amount, and Master was no longer his Master.

They took his clothes away and bathed him in cold water and soap. His hair was brushed out and dried. He was given loose pants and a shirt, but they weren’t his from home.

He didn’t have a home. He was ownerless.

It wasn’t until they started clipping his nails and filing them round that he started to cry.

They chained him down, at the end of the display, and all there was nothing to do but wait.

And wait.

And wait.

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The other slaves sold faster than him.

All of them did.

Multiple rounds of all new faces passed him by, all going to homes with a master, and he was left behind.

“Stupid,” they called him. “Can’t even talk.”

I’m not stupid, he wanted to say. I can do lots of things!

But his hair grew longer and longer, and his price was lower and lower.

Juno wrapped his arms around himself, shivering. It wasn’t even cold out, but he felt cold.

He was unwanted.

He watched the dogs following their owners on walks; poodles and labradors and shepherds.

Juno was jealous.

He was made to serve and be useful, and so were dogs, but dogs got to be pets.

Juno wasn’t even worth being a slave.

He wept, and waited.

And waited.

And waited.

taglist: @paintedpigeon1 @phoenixpromptsandstuff

[sysmedsaresexist]

As someone with OSDD (if I’m right) what’s the worst misinfo about DID that us endos discuss in our spaces? /genq

JCYDJFCYS I love this question, I want my mods to jump in, too, but I'm going to spice it up with the worst misinformation from both sides.

For me, Dude, the worst I've seen in endo circles... is that DID is the same thing as mediumship. This is going to seem like I'm vagueing one of two people, but it's not you two (you'll know who you are). There's actually someone from before them that gave me the worst taste for that discourse, and probably made me a lot more angry about it.

In anti circles, it's got to be that dissociation is solely trauma-based. It's the most fundamental misunderstanding that leaks into everything else

I think those are my two biggest peeves.

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Mod Quill here to say FFFFFF I HATE MISINFO. Gosh it really is in all the communities, too.

In endogenic spaces, it’s hard for me to decide, but I think it’s the idea that the ToSD is ableist because “it supports final fusion” (which is its own can of worms, which I think Mod Robo might touch on, if my guess is correct). The ToSD doesn’t even fucking mention final fusion get off it. I hear about the ToSD being ableist constantly, and genuinely, it seems like just being medical at all in any way is considered ableist…

Meanwhile, anti-endos? Good lord. The worst misinfo I see is the gatekeeping of trauma. “You can’t develop DID from XYZ” — congrats! You’re a fakeclaimer who doesn’t understand how trauma works. I pray no newly discovered systems find you.

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Mod Robo here! Oh gosh, what misinfo haven't I seen? I swear I've seen the wildest shit!

Some of the worst stuff from pro-endos was them claiming or implying that CDDs are just the "broken" versions of endogenic plurality. I've seen people claim that DID doesn't require trauma, that the DID diagnosis only exists to stigmatize endogenic plurals, and that CDD systems who use terms like "parts" or "alters" just want to dehumanize ourselves and others.

Around 2019, a pro-endo started spreading a rumor that MPD was renamed to DID in order to stigmatize plurals which is just so horribly incorrect. Multiple dissociative disorders were renamed at the same time to have the word 'dissociation' in them, and it was done by a team of researchers. The pro-endo used the previous DSM chairman's ableism to spread lies and drag innocent DID systems into discourse.

Like mod Quill said, there's been a ton of misinfo from pro-endos over ToSD (theory of structural dissociation). I've seen people claim that it's completely bunk because one of the researchers who worked on it (there were multiple) lost his medical license for abusing a patient. I've also seen pro-endos try to apply ToSD to endogenic plurality and conclude that ToSD must be bunk because it doesn't fit? It just makes no sense to me because the theory was created to explain trauma-related dissociation caused by disorders like PTSD and DID, etc... It has nothing to do with plurality.

I've also seen tooons of horrible shit from pro-endos AND anti-endos about final fusion and fused alters/systems. I've seen people say it's comparable to grooming or suicide, or that these systems are just secretly "pluralphobic" and trying to become singlets. Honestly, the hatred and misinfo I've seen people say about fused systems is some of the worst.

As for anti-endos, I've seen lots of bad misinfo too... One of the worst things is gatekeeping common CDD things based on trauma type. For example, saying that nonhuman alters are only possible in systems who experienced ritual abuse. Other common CDD things I've seen anti-endos say can only happen due to ritual abuse: gatekeeper alters, subsystems, polyfragmentation, alters with number names or color names, switching due to triggers, alters who feel loyal to their abusers, alters that other alters can front through, certain headspace stuff like checkered floor tiles, having a headspace in general, etc.

I could say more but my reply is already longer than both Dude's and Quill's combined. I'll just leave it off here!

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Mod Signal: I like this ask a lot lol. It shows genuine curiosity and a desire to improve spaces. Misinfo collects like dirt around syscourse. We all have to sweep regularly to make sure that shit gets thrown out.

On the pro-endo side, the worst I've seen is endo systems attempting to lean into the fantasy model of CDDs to support their own plurality. That model has been debunked for quite a while, and it has hurt so many goddamn people. CDDs are trauma-based, we don't have to reverse scientific progress or fakeclaim some of the first cases of recorded CDDs to support endo systems.

On the anti-endo side, my least favorite bit of misinformation is the idea that the TOSD shows how different people's trauma ranks in the trauma Olympics. The idea that someone with polyfragmented DID must have had things worse than an OSDD 1B system who must have had things worse than someone with BPD, etc. The level of dissociation required for each label in the DSM relies on so many more factors than just "who had it worse". There are biological dispositions to dissociation to take into account, there's the reminder that what's traumatic to a child isn't always considered traumatic to an adult, there's attachment styles to take into play. There is so much more to the science than "I had it worse than you and I have the diagnosis to prove it".

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Everyone is welcome to reblog and add their own. This could be a good learning opportunity for people to go, "wait, that's not true??"

[5thcloud]

[ These all wips , not posted anywhere yet - ramble post ]

Tbh cant wait to get done with Tres Flores our limbus buppies (not in a "im sick of it" more of "aa cant wait to do even more things !!!)

Our brain can only work on 1 thing at a time / focus on one very specific topic like 1 series at a time , it hard swap back n forth

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But cant wait to work on Wish You Goodnight our original OC story we first thought of all the way back in 2016 when we were around 14 (yike time flies) ,

this current ver started around 2023 . This story was always planed to be a comic therefore everything about it is based around this . been work on on n off n havent touched it in a long while as working on Tres Flores

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this one here is one of our most fav page spreads

We rlly are a jack of all traits , we love doing a ton of art related things n , yes this does include comics n their composition

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WYGN is about a monochrome world where color is only present in eyes or souls , however twist on idea is that this isnt shown as bad and just is normal world , it just way world is .

synopsis is just "In a world plunge in monochrome , The Sun and Star explored the beautiful world as memories pass on"

The story is not like Tres Flores at all , it very character based and more so a slice of life exploration of ideas kind story . no villains just character's lives stuff . also no queerphobia or ableism

This town is based on archiving colors , so this place specifically remember colors by using HEX codes and passing down stories of what things were , like how apples were red , green , and yellow .

Most places outside dont do this , or more so visit the town as a novelty and do a "oh thats what my color is related to . neat"

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story focuses lot on queerness , specifically gender queerness , and how its part of world

Theyre animals however very much human in mind (so the "theyre just cartoon talking animals" is not this at all) , but as animals , they all experience gender different therefore express and explain it different . its part of the society and unique tailored to story

and also because animals , disability is very much part of it all too , and us making up tools so that all these characters can logically do everything . it just casually part of world

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it makes us happy write this as we many queer n intersex n disabled , and poc specificly cambodian . we not see ourselves at all in media , not even in ocs or other's webcomics or creations stuff . existing is lonely

love the wuppers

[syltheanti]

(TW: mentions of past trauma (bullying), past toxic friendship (ex-mutual here, that lasted for a year and we were DMing each other in 2023 but they had me blocked right when August barely began in 2024), internalized ableism, victim-blaming, etc)

This blog made me feel safe to vent so much, and it's refreshing, something I didn't feel when I used to speak to my ex-mutual in my old main account (that user who outed themselves as an anti-anti leaning neutral) prior to them getting their account banned/left the site for trying to potentially get harassed even if the shitty callout they did on me had them try to claim that's not the case (after all... they lied to everyone about how I had NPD, kept using narcissist as an insult by calling me a narcissistic woman, all because I don't tolerate their ableism thrown at people with cluster b PDs including up to trying to normalize only them being internally ableist, was self-diagnosing myself with it with no proof in order to be a bitch to everyone on the internet (they don't have real evidence of this, they think displaying abusive behavior automatically makes someone have NPD so it's okay to armchair diagnose ppl they hate/hurt them as such) they hate my reactions to cursed fanfics even though none of it is actually me genuinely being a troll and are in fact, having a good reason to be disgusted at them! They think because I have difficulties moving on from being bullied as a child is proof that I'm too negative and draining to be around since I refuse to stay silent about the subject (this is the exact language my abusive high school teacher said to me (minus the swearing in that badly done callout done on me) and view me as a rabid anti just because of that...), and of course, thinking it's okay to abandon me solely for being the former author of a doc I made on a proshipper that had me be harassed and stalked by their white knights even though I didn't do anything wrong since that user deserved to get exposed for defending a groomer/pedophile offsite (they block proshippers for following them despite identifying as one and for some reason think fiction affects reality)

Dealing with them genuinely made my trust issues spike up since they are simply like my childhood bullies that had been my ex-"friends", except they were passive-aggressive to the point of refusing to state what I did to them in DMs that made them uncomfortable until post-block (my bullies at least didn't try to hide that they hated me, either way, fuck both of them... fucking hated how my ex-mutual claims they don't hate people but kept contradicting themselves to an annoying degree by spreading misinformation about anyone with cluster b PDs nonstop, express how they wish anyone who state that narc abuse isn't a thing that they deserve to get yeeted into the sun and anyone who disagreed with them are being assholes), it hurt me so much, mostly because we had similar interests (being massive Super Mario Bros fans), same sexualities (biromantic asexuals, but in my case irl I'm not fully out, only on the internet and with my group of irl friends since my family is homophobic), being on the spectrum (I never got diagnosed though, they never knew about it. I didn't reveal it because I valued my privacy surrounding that a lot. I hate that they despite being on the spectrum themselves, are being ableist and deny that they are just because it's not at accepted disabilities and are doing it towards heavily stigmatized ones instead: hating the whole cluster b community for an irrational reason (having bad experiences with one person who is suspected to have any of them doesn't give you a free pass to be an ableist prick) and believing the bullshit about how cluster b abuse is real

Sadly though, lots of my trauma-dumping surrounding that situation did cause issues that aren't people I personally know much about that got me banned in a Facebook group, including guilt-tripping, asked questions to them that made them uncomfortable (it's a palace where it's safe for cluster b PDs to interact). I don't blame them for really not being able to forgive me after what I've done if I'm gonna be honest, that shit I did there really is indeed my fault...

I'm glad that people still stick to me despite making mistakes like that and don't see me as an irredeemable monster who should just get therapy to "cure" the issues immediately (something my ex-mutual did say in their callout on me in the tags, which made no sense because again, they think having NPD images you automatically a bad person even though they try so hard to claim they ain't talking about that mental illness when they in fact are)

I've been reconnecting with some ppl irl (they're ppl I met in high school), am taking things slow with them when it comes to befriending them (due to trust issues, unsurprisingly due to the result of having ppl close to me betray me) and making more friends little by little (they thankfully are aware of the harassment I've been put through on the internet and in person is fucked up (didn't matter if that occurred years ago) and I didn't deserve to endure any of that going on)

--toadstoolisjudgingyou

You didn't deserve any of that. All those people, your bullies, your ex mutual and all those white knights who harassed you are assholes. We all make mistakes. We're human. Being an anti or against things doesn't make you any less human. I'm glad I could provide a safe space for you and I hope I can continue to do so. Wherever you are now, I hope things are going much better and good things continue to happen to you ^^ /gen